Well the holiday season is upon us again. All year we have been able to enjoy the regular holidays, as I call them, with family and friends without having to be asked “When are you finally going to settle down?” or “When are you going to stop messing around and get married?”. You know you can enjoy Independence Day and Labor Day without hearing these questions, but now, it’s November and it is the “Family” Holiday season. As much as we try not to roll our eyes and think, just leave me alone, I know that family and friends mean well and often times think that if we have someone, we would be so much happier. And honestly, it couldn’t be further from the truth. A lot of times, God has us in a position where we need to focus on Him, ourselves, and our purpose before we can even entertain bringing another person into our lives. He should always be first in our lives and we cannot do that without having a relationship with Him. In order to have a relationship with Him we must study the bible, pray, and meditate. The bible says to love your neighbor as yourself. I think most people forget that in order to love someone as yourself, you have to love you first, right? As I have battled with these thoughts and dreaded these conversations throughout the years, I have come up with a solution. And in this solution, I will give you 5 ways to respond to these questions. In it, I hope that you will find them to be honest, loving, and true for you. Use them at your next Thanksgiving gathering when Grandma asks about your love life.
1. “I’m using this time to be focused on my purpose and when I am ready, and it is God’s will, I will meet (or find) the right person”.
2. “I don’t want to rush into a relationship that I am not mentally, emotionally, or spiritually ready for.”
3. “I am enjoying being able to spend my time and money freely doing the things I love. I’ll meet someone when the time is right.”
4. “I am not defined by my relationship status. But thank you for asking.”
5. “I don’t want to settle and honestly I am waiting on the right person. Settling and rushing is the worst thing that I could do right now. Take comfort in knowing that I am happy right now.”
I hope that you find these responses fitting for you. What responses have you used in the past? Let me know in the comments and on my other social media platforms. Have a blessed day and Happy Thanksgiving!!!